Can't Fake the Funk
Last week in a life coaching session one of my clients said, “I just can’t fake the funk anymore”. I really liked the catchiness of this phrase and especially the meaning behind it. (She gave me permission to use it here.) “Can’t Fake the Funk” refers to getting to a point within yourself where you cannot hold back from living your authentic self. It is when you are speaking and living your truth, and knowing that is the only way to live the life you truly want.
“Funk” refers to when things just aren’t going right in some aspect of your life and you feel like something is off. Whether it’s that you aren’t listening to yourself, and doing what you know you are supposed to be doing to honor your deeper truth. Or, maybe it’s, settling in relationships where you don’t feel respected, honored or like you matter and you go along with it. Perhaps you are feeling distraught, a sense of hopelessness and/or disconnected with all that is going on right now with the election.
When you “fake the funk” and pretend that it doesn’t exist this actually turns you into someone who you are not, and negative behaviors, thoughts, beliefs and attitudes develop. It may feel safe initially but over time becomes toxic and erodes relationships, self-esteem, motivation, connection and success.
“Can’t fake the funk” is about getting to a point within yourself where you are respecting yourself and other people enough to speak your truth, to own what is not working for you anymore and to take action about it. It’s about being proactive, not passive. This opens up for new opportunities of growth, health, fulfillment and meaning in your life.
When you are being authentic to what you know is true to yourself it promotes transformation in your relationships and life. It may mean that some relationships and other things will change. But, that may be important if it’s holding you back, making you unhappy and not working. Or, it may just transform them into ones that are healthier, more connecting and fulfilling.
If and when you get to the point of “can’t fake the funk” anymore it will make room for what’s to come that will be more in alignment with your deeper truth. This is how to shape your life in the direction that will best serve, support and make you grow into your higher self. It will allow you to expose your greater gifts to the world!